How to be Unique and Mysterious

Ever wonder how you can make a name for yourself, how you can feel like you belong, how you can have that feeling where everything is under control-- by you. How to be Unique. By: Liana Harvilla Think of the world as this: A game. And you're the host whether the people playing the game know or not. You're the one who set the rules, your the one who names their place and where they stand. (Note: All names used in this are just for examples-- do not take any offense) That girl Jasleen in all of your classes that is annoying you? Mark that in your mind. Or maybe on that little note app on your apple device. Jasleen - Annoying - Game Plan: Drive her away with anonymous notes saying things like, "Stay away from Liana! She has nothing but bad intentions! I'm your benefactor - MS" Whatever MS means, it sounds cool. Maybe... Mystery? MS = Mystery? Why not? As her benefactor I can control her from the sidelines. You're so called best friend Addie who Jasleen is clinging to? And thinks that you're her lackey? Oh ho better put them in their places. Addie - Best friend - Considers me as Lackey - Game Plan: Make decisions on my own, she asks for the pencil? Scoot back, drag her chair over to the pencil bin and say, "Got your pencil now?". She walks past a bathroom and without saying anything to her you make a beeline for the bathroom without once looking at her while she stands in front of you- blabbing off without realizing your gone. Seconds later she looks back and sees you gone and rushes to the bathroom to find you. You give her an exasperated look and say, "Just use the toilet, better go now than wait for when you really have to go later." And wait for her to do as you wish-- she will, trust me. That one girl in math class ignoring you? Jamie - 'Friend' - Ignoring me - Game Plan: Ignore her as well, let her realize what it's like without me. After all, you don't know what you've had until you've lost it. ------ Think of the world in the terms of: Fascination. That butterfly that just died? Fascinating how once it's wings are trapped it gives up and willingly starves itself- at least I think that's what it's doing? I failed my math test? Fascinating how that Mr. Grumpy's mind works. He thinks that me missing five days of school (math work and learning) due to my illness was a joke! He won't even let me re-learn the five days I missed! Did Trump just win as president? It's fascination how the minds of the people work- they think that having him as president will save them for what will come. We all know its inevitable- WWIII is coming soon, no matter who is president. ----- Be calm. People who wear their emotions on their sleeves aren't going to get anywhere in life-- they're too caught up in the web of lies created by the peers and adults around them. Ahhhh-- I'm so scared I failed my math test, I'm crying in front of the teacher though I'm too preoccupied with my test score to notice. "Sweetie?" The teacher says. I respond quickly, "I can't believe I failed this math test!" I announce it unknowingly to the entire room, "I studied so hard for it too!" The teacher then calmly says, "Don't worry, we can talk to the counselor about this."-and get your parents involved and the dean involved and eventually the principle so then I don't have to deal with you crying and I won't have to deal with raising your grades your parents will punish you enough on their own and they'll become guilty because their child needed to talk with them to the counselor wasting the counselor and their time from work and their child's sanity. I sniffle, "Al-alright..." Yeah no. Don't let that be you. Be the one who's lighthearted in dire situations. And if you must show emotion, show ones that wouldn't necessarily correlate with the circumstance. It's cold outside but it's not snowing? What the heck, mother nature?! What kind of game is she trying to play?! Man, this winter just isn't worth it. You're moving to Florida. ---- Some people think being unique or mysterious you have to be all dark and gloomy-- that's not the case. If anything, you're showing your whole self for the whole world to see and judge. Yeah, if you wanna be that way thats totally cool with me just don't mess with my life or my social status and we're good. Though you could change that attitude... As my mom always like to say (is she rubbing off on me? oh no call the ambulance). Having a slight smile on your face at all times is a good way to start. Not only will you look more friendly and approachable, but people will be left wondering, "What's really going on in her head?" If you've ever walked by someone on the street that's smiling or laughing to themselves, you know this feeling. ---- Do not be afraid to be absurd. If anything, try to be as absurd as possible! When a waiter comes up to your table and asks you what you'd like, sometimes you just want to say, "I could tell you -- but then I'd have to kill you." Completely deadpan. And that's okay. Same if your friend asks you what are you doing? You know what to say. "Are you a vampire?" Someone asks you and you just reply with, "Only half." Then walk away as if nothing has happened. "Do you wear make-up?" "Is my natural face that beautiful?" "Are you going to my party?" "Was I invited?" "It's my birthday, why didn't you even decorate my locker?" "You never told me." "Are you kidding me?" "No, I'm kidding the person behind you." "Who knows?" "I know, but I'm not telling. I mean, I could... But what's the point in that?" "Who cares." 'You're mom probably will when she gets a call from the principal." "What do you know?" "Just enough to be dangerous." "What's up?" "Prices." "Wanna bet?" "Nah, I'm tired of always winning." While it's not the most sophisticated of tactics, it will get people wondering what the heck is going on in that brain of yours. And it'll probably be the most fun you'll ever have. ---- Never give much away about yourself-- makes it easier when you're explaining to everyone in three years how your mom is actually Cleo Patrica and your next in line for the throne. If someone asks you a question, just direct the conversation onto them. So when the conversation ended they realize that they know nothing more of you than when they first started chatting-- three hours ago. Ask open ended questions. When you see a spark in them, jump on it. Get them talking about it. Act genuinely interested to keep them going. You'll seem nice, like a good listener, and you'll be fun to be around even though you're barely doing anything. See? Easy. When the conversation does direct somehow to you (you'll know when it comes) don't give away more than you need to. ​​​​​​​"Are you in a relationship? "Yes." With my father- and mother. Yeah, I'm a two timing piece of sh**. ----- Let's say you're invited to a party, make a scene, be in the spotlight for a few of the parties-- then one day be invited to one and leave right in the middle with no explanation. Dancing with a super hot playboy? Right in the middle of flirting abruptly stand up and just walk out, making everyone wonder "What just happened?" and then when they start bombarding you with questions the next day just say, "Everyone has their secrets- just some of us don't tell." And bring your finger up to your lips in a shushing movement.

But do this sparingly. If you get up and leave from a party all the time, it'll become a quirk of yours that's a little annoying. If you never show up in the first place, you'll stop being invited. So as with anything, pick and choose your battles. --- Wanna have a little fun with it? How far are you willing to go? Pretend you're someone you're not. When you enter a party, you give people a fake name and ask them if the mob has been here recently. It's not quite the same as being yourself, but it can be quite entertaining!

--- Keep in mind:

• Don't let too many people in on your game. It'll be better if no one knows- don't wanna lose a pawn now would you.

• When texting, don't use speak like LOL. Instead text "Quite hilarious!" It may be a pain, but it adds to the mystery, and people will take it more seriously.

• Being mysterious or unique doesn't mean you can't have friends. You can have a bunch of friends and still be mysterious and unique. It all depends on how you do it (as in; present yourself).

• Keep it low, and don't go overboard.